Heartbreak or heart cracks?

Have you been in a relationship where you thought your heart was broken and pieces of it you are still collecting? Has that given you Insomnia? Probably there are other ways for ending a relationship to avoid the heartbreak, maybe just a little crack, when two people talk in a mature grown up way, and have taken every step to work on the relationship and it has not worked. 

Talk in a mature grown up way is not what we know in this world, we should learn it. Yes do you know a school or university that teaches that? If you do please send the leaders of the world so as instead of war they sit and talk in a mature and grown up way, make it compulsory for the members of parliaments to take that degree before occupying their seats in some parliaments. Have you seen sessions of UK parliament? They boo at each other!!!!!

Probably there is a way which many of us do not know that is why  we keep being heartbroken in relationships. However I believe understanding and sympathy  for a loving yet frank talk should be the first step, maybe honesty? Detachment from one`s own idea and wanting the best for the relationship? Oooooh this last one is tough.

The truth is some people do not have a sound mind, some have been diagnosed some have not, but how can you talk grown up to someone who is not well? 

That is an exception of course, my feeling, between you and I, is that the leaders of the world who make war are in this category! I mean can you imagine two little boy fighting for something? Yes. Two grown up man though, hey, how complicated this game or toy is that two sound minded (?) man can not resolve? 

I wonder where is the skilled doctor to diagnose them?

The reality of this world is that our doctors and psychologist are treating people who are ill as the side effect of the war, and this is what we have got used to. And somehow do not want to see it. 

We are often treating the side effect and not the reason.

You have an aquarium with a very good filter, it is beautiful, clear water, colorful fishes, you look at it and calmness sits on your heart. A dear friend`s child throws a small pot of plant filled with soil in it. Do you expect the filter to remove that? It will take forever and many of your beautiful fishes die until then. You aught to remove the pot and the soil and the plant that the kid just wanted to see if the fish would take a bite like a dog or a bird : ) The intension of the child does not count in what you will have to do. You will have to take step to safe the situation because you love the calmness that comes to your heart. You aught to safe the fishes.

In relationships we need to protect our hearts and minds. Sometimes you are dealing with sick people, sometimes with wounded people, sometimes you have to deal with your own traumas and wounds, it is never as black and white, there is always many shades of gray in between.

Hearts never break I heard in an old black & white movie, they only get wounded and the wound heals. We are all in healing process aren`t we? The healing process that is filled with hope, joy and enthusiasm for service,will have a good ending. 

If meanwhile you have Sleepless night, be it break or crack of heart, check the sleepless night or Insomnia hyperlinked in this text, you may need to fix few things.

The Flow between Doctor-Patient

Have you ever thought why was it that the scientists of the past for example Avicenna had so many different educations and interest and they were actually doctors of their own times? They knew philosophy, literature, geometry,maths and astronomy (different from astrology), knew about herbs and minerals yet they knew the effect of emotions on human body.

Avicenna whose name many of us have heard specially if we have been in medical school, as one of the founders of medicine. His books and scripts are still in practice by those doctors who do further education in that field and call themselves “Hakeem” (Hakim) a Persian/Arabic word for “The wise man” different from “Tabeeb”(tabib) that was referred to doctor. Hakim was more than just a doctor.

Avicenna knew astronomy, in his thoughts he knew the stars and their positions, their mathematical order in the universe, in his mind he soared in the universe but was logical and his  feet were on the ground. Once when he was attending to a young man as a patient who was suffering from palpitation (strong and fast heartbeat), as usual he asked many questions not only in regards to the health of the body but emotions too, he took the pulse of the young man and mentioned the name of the neighbor`s girl, the pulse raised and his conclusion was that the problem, at least, partially was emotional. He was a sensitive man this Avicenna the multilateral man I want to call him. He treated people with mainly diet, used herbs, minerals,  blood tapping and so many other methods he knew.

How would he feel in our world today? I do not want to go there because my feeling is that he would feel lonely in his profession like many of us unless, you are lucky as I am to work in a Clinic with colleagues who are professional and like-minded.

This brings me to the thought of how multilateral am I in my approach to healing and treating an ill person? I am striving and I know many other doctors are.

The truth is there is such a great similarity between the structure of an atom and the solar system. There is a sun and/or nucleus and everything else is circumambulating in adoration around that centre. What power or force keeps them to do that? what is that attraction? I want to believe it is the power of “Love”. 

That power is everywhere and in everything.That, we can direct, allow the flow of it or, block it, because we have been given the “Will” power a power that distinguishes us from animals and the rest of the creatures.The will power make us unique, because that means we can make a choice! To use it to control a situation or ease it and infuse it with love and build a future.

This brings me yet to a thought how powerful we are and how sweet and gentle that power is if the “will” is always for the flow of “love”.

My hope is to be able to listen to what my patients have to say, do the examinations and tests, yet, raise beyond what is and, consider the whole human being.

And that continues in our personal and daily interactions, to realize we are here for a reason, and to make it poetic, for a season, we need to realize the nobility of our soul, elevate our conversation, make them purposeful, fill them with joy and dance it all the way.

"Lift up your hearts above the present and look with eyes of faith into the future! Today the seed is sown, the grain falls upon the earth, but behold the day will come when it shall rise a glorious tree and the branches thereof shall be laden with fruit. Rejoice and be glad that this day had dawned, try to realize its power, for it is indeed wonderful!"

Abdu`l-Baha