Have you been in a relationship where you thought your heart was broken and pieces of it you are still collecting? Has that given you Insomnia? Probably there are other ways for ending a relationship to avoid the heartbreak, maybe just a little crack, when two people talk in a mature grown up way, and have taken every step to work on the relationship and it has not worked.
Talk in a mature grown up way is not what we know in this world, we should learn it. Yes do you know a school or university that teaches that? If you do please send the leaders of the world so as instead of war they sit and talk in a mature and grown up way, make it compulsory for the members of parliaments to take that degree before occupying their seats in some parliaments. Have you seen sessions of UK parliament? They boo at each other!!!!!
Probably there is a way which many of us do not know that is why we keep being heartbroken in relationships. However I believe understanding and sympathy for a loving yet frank talk should be the first step, maybe honesty? Detachment from one`s own idea and wanting the best for the relationship? Oooooh this last one is tough.
The truth is some people do not have a sound mind, some have been diagnosed some have not, but how can you talk grown up to someone who is not well?
That is an exception of course, my feeling, between you and I, is that the leaders of the world who make war are in this category! I mean can you imagine two little boy fighting for something? Yes. Two grown up man though, hey, how complicated this game or toy is that two sound minded (?) man can not resolve?
I wonder where is the skilled doctor to diagnose them?
The reality of this world is that our doctors and psychologist are treating people who are ill as the side effect of the war, and this is what we have got used to. And somehow do not want to see it.
We are often treating the side effect and not the reason.
You have an aquarium with a very good filter, it is beautiful, clear water, colorful fishes, you look at it and calmness sits on your heart. A dear friend`s child throws a small pot of plant filled with soil in it. Do you expect the filter to remove that? It will take forever and many of your beautiful fishes die until then. You aught to remove the pot and the soil and the plant that the kid just wanted to see if the fish would take a bite like a dog or a bird : ) The intension of the child does not count in what you will have to do. You will have to take step to safe the situation because you love the calmness that comes to your heart. You aught to safe the fishes.
In relationships we need to protect our hearts and minds. Sometimes you are dealing with sick people, sometimes with wounded people, sometimes you have to deal with your own traumas and wounds, it is never as black and white, there is always many shades of gray in between.
Hearts never break I heard in an old black & white movie, they only get wounded and the wound heals. We are all in healing process aren`t we? The healing process that is filled with hope, joy and enthusiasm for service,will have a good ending.
If meanwhile you have Sleepless night, be it break or crack of heart, check the sleepless night or Insomnia hyperlinked in this text, you may need to fix few things.
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