#PariTheMuse: Can one lie to oneself?

Has anyone lied to you? Was it really terrible when you found out it was a lie? Have you ever lied to other people?How did that feel? I am actually not curious about how it felt when you lied? LOL Because I am quite sure it is not a good feeling. I am trying to get beneath that feeling, to the before " telling a lie" feeling.

I was participating in a group study called Ruhi classes in the form of study circle. In those Ruhi classes one can learn about the Baha’i religion. We meet once a week. In the section one of the book one, that we were studying, there was a question ” Can one lie to oneself?” Now I must tell you in this study circle everything is and can be questioned, it is kind of like a kid who is still in mother’s arms and point her finger at everything and asks what is this? And what is this? And this? or when later the kid is a little older and starts with the „why”s : ) regardless of your response to the „what” she asks „why”?

There is a great development possibility for women and men alike when they become parents. They not only answer the questions, sometimes they are at awe of how did that come to their kid’s mind!!!?

Some parents though miss to harvest this from their children, instead they get annoyed and may even say O my God she asks so many questions, she drives me crazy! The reality is most of those questions are valid questions to us too. It is just that in a period of our lives we forgot or stopped asking them, maybe because people were fed up with our questions. Maybe because our care takers gave us wrong answers or said „ I don’t know” in a row to just shot us up, or our questions all of a sudden became political or around topics which were dogmas. This doesn’t mean we don’t have questions.

In the study circle we could ask as many questions as we wanted around the topic and there was a time when we didn’t have anymore question and then we were reflecting!

A beautiful part of reflection comes when you are looking for further answers without even realizing, you are pondering. That little kid in you is like hmmm what happened to me, I do not have anymore questions? And you know deep down, this doesn’t mean you know it all, it is just that you were thirsty and the discussion was like sippin on water, it quenched your thirst for that session. See you next week!!!!

Now can one lie to oneself?

I have, many times. As a teenager, stood in front of the mirror and because of that ugly zist in my face I said ohhhh „I am” so ugly. God forbid I do it now with the wrinkles :) !!!

Has anyone lie to you? Who cares? There is nothing you can do about that. You lost your trust? Why? Lack of trust doesn’t make you a better person. Be trustworthy yourself, be truthful yourself. Because now you are rich in the feeling of pain, you don’t want to create that for others, right?

People lie because they are so scared. Some of them may say they meant to protect you. Make sure you become a person/ a woman who has the ability to hear the truth so no man or woman can even think to hide the truth from you. It is better for us to work on our capacity to hear the truth rather than thinking, analyzing and digging into why did he lie to me?

Sometimes kids get scared. We all have that kiddo in us :)