Are you nr 1 in your relationship?

Have you ever felt you were number 2 in a relationship in which the other party was number 1 priority for you? Have you felt you had been number 2 in your family for lets say your parents when they had prefered your other sibling to you? How did that make you feel?

Have you been a daughter to a mother who wanted to have a son? Or are you a son to a mother who wanted to just have a little doll? Did she dressed you up as a girl? If only she knew what an impact this will have on your identity....

Have you been competetive in your life? Or, totally the opposite, at least thats what you think you are?

Did your parent want you to be the best at school so as they could brag about you? Was this a cover up for their unhappy marriage? Or were „you” their „goal” and your achievment was their pride?

Did your parent say they worry about you when they didn’t know what to do with their own stress? Didn’t you hate that? Are you not calling your boyfriend when you don’t hear from him because you worry??

Do you not feel integrated in the country you live? How about your work place? Do you belong anywhere at all? When was it that you felt you belonged to a place or situation? Do you suffer from some kind of thyroid problem?

When was the last time you got a good hug from someone you loved, from someone who loved you back?

Do you want to stop the pattern of being always number 2 in this life? What prevents you from doing that? You? Yourself? How does it feel to be nr 1 in a relationship?

Do you want to stop calling your boyfriend when he doesn’t send any sign from himself or do you want to maybe believe that your parents called you because they cared?

Do you want to belong? Or do you want to always live as an outsider in your family, with your in laws, at your workplace, in the country you live or in the community you have a membership? Is feeling of belonging a choice? Who has chosen that for you? Do you want to start making choices for yourself? Are you ready to take responsiblity in life regardless of whatever has happend in your childhood?Do you want to turn back and look into the mirror and this time see yourself for who you really are?