Hell is cold in Oslo

The sun is shining over Olso and it is beautiful. If I were to follow Eckard Tolle’s suggestion of staying in „Now” and, I must admit  I am doing that right now, I probably will end up soaked in the rain a little later! The thing is when the sun shines in Oslo it is so special you would think it stays forever, the way it caresses your skin is so soft it simply takes you away even beyond „now” to the eternity.But then a simple white innocent cloud covering the sun brings you back to the” hell” which by the way is awefully „chilly” in Oslo.

Yes, you live in a cold hell and  a warm heaven a thousand times a day and that, hasn’t made these people moody! Only those who are in their menopause, PMS-ing, suffering from eating disoerders,drug addicts, people suffering from fibromyalgia,arthritis, thyroid illnesses, skin problems...all for a valid reason of course says I who is a woman and a  doctor and really feels for her patients.

These people are calm, when you stop them in the street to ask for a direction they give you a friendly smile, maybe because they see I am lost with my google map in my hand. Hmmm...now that I am writing about it...maybe they are actually finding it quite amusing.

The truth is I am one of those who has not much sense for orientation. It used to bother me and make me a bit anxious but now I joke about it. It seems to me that ever since I take my shortcomings easier and more with humor, I accept myself more fully... just the way I am. This doesn’t mean there is no place for development, but being critical and over analytical about everything in life is definitly the way towards depression and it happens so smoothly just like the way that innocent white cloud comes and covers the sun!All of a sudden you feel your life is all cloudy, chilly and depressing,you remeber the pain, it all aches, you forget there was a sun, there is a sun, shining right there and has only been covered temporarily with thoughts or just a though, fear of being left alone, maybe abandonment?

 Now you have probably heard about the average of 70,000 thoughts crossing our mind every day, I am not sure where does that come from I have not found the real source as yet, I just know there are so many thoughts, or better say so many clouds hah!?

The sun as perfect, warm,shiny and beautiful as it is,if I get too close to it, it will burn me, yet closer and it will consume me. Does that make the sun imperfect? Does that make me weak because I can’t stand too much intimacy with the sun? Is this about learning my boundaries and limitations? Is there any truth in this about being self-protective yet enjoying the sun from a distance?

I guess I have got carried away by the power of now : ) however, I have come to realize that external influences are immense on us and there are many thoughts that cross our mind, yet it is our choice to grab one, ponder upon it and to let go of another. Do I want to keep thinking about what I didn’t get? Wouldn’t that frustrate me?

 The good news is even behind that innocent white cloud that can sometimes get angry, dark and, grumpy you know the sun is still shining. Clouds will pass, just sit and observe for a short while and then start ”doing”!

Are you nr 1 in your relationship?

Have you ever felt you were number 2 in a relationship in which the other party was number 1 priority for you? Have you felt you had been number 2 in your family for lets say your parents when they had prefered your other sibling to you? How did that make you feel?

Have you been a daughter to a mother who wanted to have a son? Or are you a son to a mother who wanted to just have a little doll? Did she dressed you up as a girl? If only she knew what an impact this will have on your identity....

Have you been competetive in your life? Or, totally the opposite, at least thats what you think you are?

Did your parent want you to be the best at school so as they could brag about you? Was this a cover up for their unhappy marriage? Or were „you” their „goal” and your achievment was their pride?

Did your parent say they worry about you when they didn’t know what to do with their own stress? Didn’t you hate that? Are you not calling your boyfriend when you don’t hear from him because you worry??

Do you not feel integrated in the country you live? How about your work place? Do you belong anywhere at all? When was it that you felt you belonged to a place or situation? Do you suffer from some kind of thyroid problem?

When was the last time you got a good hug from someone you loved, from someone who loved you back?

Do you want to stop the pattern of being always number 2 in this life? What prevents you from doing that? You? Yourself? How does it feel to be nr 1 in a relationship?

Do you want to stop calling your boyfriend when he doesn’t send any sign from himself or do you want to maybe believe that your parents called you because they cared?

Do you want to belong? Or do you want to always live as an outsider in your family, with your in laws, at your workplace, in the country you live or in the community you have a membership? Is feeling of belonging a choice? Who has chosen that for you? Do you want to start making choices for yourself? Are you ready to take responsiblity in life regardless of whatever has happend in your childhood?Do you want to turn back and look into the mirror and this time see yourself for who you really are?

Do you fancy Comedians?

Do you go to comedy shows?Do you like one man shows? Do you know Peter Russell?Max Amini, Maz Jobrani, Omid djalili? Is it only me whose mind went away for a second to Bill Cosby? Do you also not know where to put him in the box of your laughters?

I went to Max Amini’s show recently in Latter (Oslo). He rocked! Unfortunately I had to run home so he didn’t get the chance to take a picture with me : ) but I laughed so much my facial muscles are still thanking me for going to that show. 

Ever since his show I have been thinking what makes a comedian popular? Is it only their jokes that are funny? Is it their connections, their smart managers, or they have lots of money for their own publicity? 

Many of their audiences really only laugh at their jokes without knowing what’s behind them, but the truth is they point out whole lot of social issues in their shows, and that reveals how intelligent they are beside being so funny. Max Amini clotheth whole lot of social matters with humor such as  racism and abuse of social benefits by the immigrants in Norway. He also encouraged inter-cultural marriages so much that I came to believe he is one big Matchmaker! : ) Why did he not turn on his own tinder in Norway, why why why?

Well I have come to believe that either these one man show comedians work hard behind the scene to prepare a show or they are simply geniuses, which in the second case I hate them...LOL

If there was a comedy show in this city in the languages I knew I would definitely go once a week because my facial muscles are so happy after that workout. And my heart, at awe, one more time, to the performers. Max Amini come back to Oslo...you forgot to take a selfie with me.

 

Have you ever touched a lavender bush?

Have you ever touched a lavender bush? Try it! The fragrance remains in your hand for few seconds, the effect of which on your olfactory nerve may feel like eternity.

Yes if you want to know that is how I think of eternity... A rich moment and staying in that moment is a glimpse of how eternity may really be.

I hope your day will be full of eternal moments. 

I decided to keep a lavender pot -which actually should be in a garden- in my room, I have promised her I will open the window everyday for her... Yes in cold Norway :) and she is free to fly out anytime she decides to do so. 

She is free!

And I read this quote to her from Abdu'l-Baha,

" When one is released from the prison of self, that is indeed release, for that is the greater prison."

Not sure if she got it but I feel deep down that whatever we do or say has an effect on our surroundings. Don't you think so?

Writing out of love about famine and the almond tree

What if we had almond trees planted on the side of the streets? I am not suggesting cherries nor apples because I have a reason. But really what if? Wouldn't this type of plantation eradicate hunger from the face of the earth?

Few years ago I saw a palm tree planted in a square in Budapest, of course it needed special care and it was beautiful.... Nostalgic for me coming from south of Iran if you want :) I will have to see next time I travel to Budapest if it is still there, they had to cloth it in winter and you should know some homeless people die in Budapest in the cold season because of cold.

Then you see in Dubai they have trees that definitely don't grow in deserts :) but they do in Dubai. Yes you want to say they have the money to spend on that? Yes I am with you, they do. Where is that money coming from by the way? Oil? Oil that they found in the Earth/sea? Wouldn't that belong to all the people of the earth? Who decided that the woods in Brazil belong to Brazilians only?

What if the science, the atomic energy would be used for saving lives in Africa, maybe to plant an almond trees on their pavement? Do we need the atomic energy for bombs, and knowledge of the human DNA for cloning?Do we really need a Palm tree in Budapest and a Pine tree in Dubai? Do we?

What if we didn't need to see the picture of starving children in Africa not only because it makes us feel so sad, helpless and angry but because they belong, they deserve, and the earth and all its resources are theirs too. Aren't we tired of this much ugliness in the world? War, abuse, famine, poverty, prejudice, addictions, injustice,....?

Right now no matter how much I am trying to turn my thoughts and get ready to go to world Woman programs in Oslo I am thinking about what if the intelligent nerds would find a way to plant almond trees in Africa so as those kids would taste almonds, would see the beauty of its blooms, would play under its shadow and when they would fall in love they would hear a bird chirping on its branches....?!! 

World Women 
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Writing out of love about playfulness and moderation

Do you have moderation in your life? Are you a self-disciplined person and have a healthy balance between work, rest, reflection and play?

I am pretty sure you have a job and you rest more or less, I don’t know if you reflect, not many people do : ) but how do you play? I am so curious about that.

I was recently on a business trip, in the evening some people gathered in clicks, I joined the card playing group and I did play too and I enjoyed it as long as I felt it was just a game. The moment I felt there is a feeling of competition and winning and loosing is a matter, I left the game happily : ) and got engaged into an interesting but light conversation.

Most of us are drawn into result-oriented jobs where we don’t seem to enjoy the process. If we want to have a look at the proportion of process and result and the feeling of joy which is bound to it, isn’t the process longer that the last feeling of win? Why would we then do this to ourselves? Suffering for a long time for a moment of win that passes so quickly and follows a depression, well, yes, in lucky situations it may get into our CV : ) but when it comes to games and play, why not just enjoy the process?

So going back to moderation, how do you play? And with that I mean play like when we were kids?

And if your life was a theater, a play, what role would you like to have? This is my first question. Think about it! This is a very serious question by the way.

 If you have the answer to my first question, then why are you not playing the role you want? What prevents you from doing that? Do you really think you will have another chance to live this life? Are you kidding me or yourself?
So far the one person I have met who is playing the role he loves is Shahrokh Moshkin Ghalam the Iranian dancer and choreographer.

The role I would and have chosen for myself is romantic comedy, I happen to be a medical doctor, wish me good luck for my role in this life : ) 

How about you get to the depth of your heart, find the role you want and, play it, if you don’t like it, change it, but always play...let's play just like when we were kids <3

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Writing out of pure love about Openness

Are you an open person? Do you share your thoughts and feelings freely? And when you do, do you expect a certain response?Or Is it ”because I told you I love you and I throw myself at you, you should give me a mutual response” kind of openness? 

With openness did you mean to connect or rather control? When you were open at your work place and expressed yourself did you expect an immediate, radical change or you meant to connect yourself to them?

Do you think openness is for connecting and then may be something will transmit, or openness means you will have control from now on?

Openness  is being honest, clear and sincere, showing who we are and what we feel without pretense.

When you are open you are being yourself and there is no need for regret.

The feeling of throwing yourself in front of someone,  emotionally being naked, could be terrible ,specially if you don’t get the mutual response.But hey! You did what you believed was right and people have the right to respond the way they want.

 We have a long way to figure out what love really is. Love has no reason, when you can say to someone I love you and I care for you but I don’t know why, that is real love. Once you have a reason, then it is your thoughts talking and when that reason is not there anymore, you will start imagining love.

 Openness is about connecting not controlling. We reveal our thoughts without having the intention to manage the response of others. In another words when we are open, we are receptive to the surprises of life, whatever it may be : )

It is the same when you are open and ask for help, either you will get it or not! Being open and asking for help is a stretch you make, stretch is good for you : ) If not for the body it is good for your soul in this case.

With real openness you care about the views and feelings of others. Do you?

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